Why Come to Therapy? Why seek coaching or counselling? Something is not right in life. Something in your experience of it is troubling you. Perhaps you can’t get near the goals you’ve set for yourself, or your relationships are beset…
The Reverse Guilt-Shame Dynamic in People-Pleasing Many people-pleasers describe a deep sense of shame that drives their overextension to accommodate others. It’s almost the reverse of what should happen. Normally, if we see someone in need, we might feel moved…
[siteorigin_widget class=”WP_Widget_Media_Video”][/siteorigin_widget] Transcript A Brief Talk About Children of Cluster B Parents Hi, I wanted to talk a little bit today about the challenges of being the child of someone with a Cluster B personality disorder. This topic has come up…
Mind, Conscious and Unconscious In the course of my work as a therapist, I am often talking to clients about the difference between conscious and unconscious mind. Many people have never even considered that such a division exists, and would…
[siteorigin_widget class=”WP_Widget_Media_Video”][/siteorigin_widget] Understanding Complexes and Subpersonalities: Pathways to Healing and Wholeness Today, I’m exploring the psychotherapeutic concept of complexes or subpersonalities—terms I use interchangeably. These ideas originate from Jungian psychology and have been further developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz in…
[siteorigin_widget class=”WP_Widget_Media_Video”][/siteorigin_widget] Welcome to Psychofiles Welcome to the first episode of Psychofiles, a new video/podcast series discussing matters of the mind. In this first episode I talk about relationships and where we go wrong and how we might prevent ourselves…
Or Why Therapists Should Not Affirm I have read many mission statements from various charities and media outlets recently that all revolve around the premise that one should ‘be allowed to be yourself’, or ‘provide a space to be your…
The Ethical Framework for the Counselling Professions (2016) is published by the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BCAP) . A link to the complete document is provided at the end [1]. By its nature counselling can deal with sensitive…
We all understand that we go into a therapeutic setting in order to achieve change, and many of us know that it does not always happen, so just what are the core conditions for change? Carl Rogers provides us with…
To understand the history of counselling, we begin with the realisation that human beings find a good deal of comfort in sharing their problems. Carl Jung, the father of analytical psychology, put it another way, “We are all in some…
